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psocopteraHow to Keep House While Drowning: a gentle approach to cleaning and organizing, KC Davis. Pretty much exactly what it says: some kind and reasonable thoughts about not giving yourself too hard a time over housekeeping, but getting done what most needs to get done or what will most improve your life. Which, sure, yes, good, but it didn't really end up speaking to most of what I find most difficult, wasn't quite the book I was hoping for. (I feel too lazy to really try to write up what kind of book I am looking for, but it would have chapters like "you only have control of your own actions and yet your house has a bunch of other people in it" and "you grew up in a different size of house than you now live in so your sense of how much stuff you should be able to own is fundamentally off by 30%".)
His Secret Illuminations, Scarlett Gale. Het romance novel by someone whose fanfic I'm a big fan of. I've read so many het romances with big burly warrior dudes and delicate little ladies, so I was delighted to read this delicate little monk swooning over his big burly warrior lady. This is the first half of a duology but really more like the first half of one long book; the second one promises to be even more femdommy. I was wishing the other day for queer readalikes for all the het romances but I will also take this sort of trope subversion, yay.
His Secret Illuminations, Scarlett Gale. Het romance novel by someone whose fanfic I'm a big fan of. I've read so many het romances with big burly warrior dudes and delicate little ladies, so I was delighted to read this delicate little monk swooning over his big burly warrior lady. This is the first half of a duology but really more like the first half of one long book; the second one promises to be even more femdommy. I was wishing the other day for queer readalikes for all the het romances but I will also take this sort of trope subversion, yay.
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Date: 2022-12-06 05:39 am (UTC)I feel like we have a lot of stuff lying around that no one ever uses any more, and think it'd be interesting to try to come up with framing for getting rid of some of it -- maybe before or after Xmas -- that felt like a positive thing rather than a negative one. "We're making our house feel more spacious" rather than "we're making you throw away your favorite toys", or some such.
Sounds hard, but I'm up for trying if you are.
(Edited to add: Posting here rather than just talking to you (hi!) in case anyone else reading this has tried this and has tips they'd like to share.)
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Date: 2022-12-06 05:10 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2022-12-06 02:10 pm (UTC)(To Josh's point: we do a lot of "tzedakah-ing," convincing the kids to give up stuff for charity, and now that the kids are old enough to shop at thrift stores they're more amenable to the process. But we also have a long history of people in the house getting cranky when I try to give up things they haven't used in a long time. The box-it-away-for-a-while-and-see-if-you-miss-any-of-it technique might help.)