upcoming logistics

[psocoptera]

I'll be traveling for my grandfather's funeral from the 27th through the 31st, and quite possibly offline during that time as well.

(People who hadn't heard that: my grandfather died. It was a long decline and I seem to have done most of my grieving at earlier stages (when he was unable to do his art anymore, the first time I said what I thought was goodbye, when he was unable to hold a conversation anymore, the last time I said goodbye, when he wasn't going to be waking up again) so right now it's honestly more a matter of logistics than emotion, although I fully expect to lose it when they play Taps at the funeral, if not earlier.)

(Dear Yuletide Author: I *think* I'll be online and commenting on the 26th? If I can't quite juggle it and leave you dangling without a comment, I am very sorry and I hope you will think to check this journal and see this so at least you know what's going on.)

(This post is not actually pregnancy or baby-related, I just don't have a sad icon, and it seemed weird to have Agatha going "ha!" on this post.)

(I really want to get back to normal posting - holiday griping, fannish squeeing, etc - but it feels awkward since some people do know that my grandfather died and clearly I am supposed to be, you know, veiling the mirrors and Being Serious, and it feels sort of disrespectful to just be all la la business as usual. Except, in my head, it *is* still business as usual, so it also feels weird to be thinking "I could write about that once a suitable period of artificial silence has elapsed.")

Comments

[mst3kforall.livejournal.com]

My sympathies for your grandfather's passing; it is good in a way that you were able to mourn in stages, and let go a little bit at a time. I am sure that it will help you to have undergone this, even at the times when it does hit you.

While I understand your concerns, I, for one, would feel that you are perfectly entitled to your feelings and to move on with your life without having to wait some period of time.

I hope that your family is able to celebrate the memory of him as you gather together.

[eastgategirl.livejournal.com]

Some people got very upset at my father's funeral because we kept recalling funny stories about him and laughing. There is no one-size fits all way to mourn, and however feels appropriate to you is appropriate. I know that we'll be sharing some sorrow on Sunday but I'm looking forward to sharing lots of joy, too. One question: What is Junie able to understand, and what, if anything, have you told her?

[adfamiliares.livejournal.com]

Condolences on your grandfather's death. My grandmother also died (years ago) after a long decline, so that the end brought more relief than sadness. That totally makes sense.

[myalexandria.livejournal.com]

I *am* sorry to hear about your grandfather. But I also want to say that when my own personal grandfather died, it was after ten years of general decline and two really horrible years, and I had done all of my own mourning gradually over that time period, and what I mostly felt at the end was some serious relief. And I suspect that there are a lot of people in that position, who would completely understand if you didn't rub ashes all over your head, you know :-)

Anyway, I'll be thinking of you.