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parenting ethics Sunday
Mar. 13th, 2011 11:52 amA new feature? Time will tell.
So: say my kid has a book (or several) that she likes but I can't stand. (Assume the problem is aesthetic, rather than racist/sexist/etc content, which would be a different problem.) Is it better to a) quietly remove and discard the book, b) tell her we're getting rid of the book, c) keep it but consistently refuse to read it when she asks (always suggesting something else instead), or d) keep it and read the hideous thing over and over? Does it make a difference if the other parent likes that one?
I wouldn't sneakily throw out a CD of Josh's that I hated, but I would certainly ask him to only listen to it in his car/on headphones/when I wasn't home and would expect that he would cooperate with this request for my sake. Explaining to Juniper that "Mama doesn't read that one but Daddy does" seems comparable, but what if she's too young to understand that I can dislike something she likes, but it doesn't mean I think something's wrong with her for liking it?
So: say my kid has a book (or several) that she likes but I can't stand. (Assume the problem is aesthetic, rather than racist/sexist/etc content, which would be a different problem.) Is it better to a) quietly remove and discard the book, b) tell her we're getting rid of the book, c) keep it but consistently refuse to read it when she asks (always suggesting something else instead), or d) keep it and read the hideous thing over and over? Does it make a difference if the other parent likes that one?
I wouldn't sneakily throw out a CD of Josh's that I hated, but I would certainly ask him to only listen to it in his car/on headphones/when I wasn't home and would expect that he would cooperate with this request for my sake. Explaining to Juniper that "Mama doesn't read that one but Daddy does" seems comparable, but what if she's too young to understand that I can dislike something she likes, but it doesn't mean I think something's wrong with her for liking it?
